Are you having back pain with any of the following?
We understand that you are experiencing one or more of the health issues that might be impacting your back pain.
We recommend that you discuss these health issues with your doctor before proceeding with this program.
Once you are cleared by your doctor to do this program, we hope it helps you find relief from your back pain.
Trust, commitment and good communication skills are the foundation of a healthy relationship. Invest in these skills every day, because good relationships improve your health and increase your happiness.
If you have a loving relationship, you are more likely to enjoy a healthier life. People in successful relationships are usually healthier and happier because each person appreciates what the other brings to the relationship. As a couple, they make the effort to keep the relationship spark alive and also recognize that trust and dedication are necessary to nurture their partnership.
These tips are good for people whose relationships are going well or for those who might have gotten into a rut. If you are feeling scared or threatened in your relationship, call the National Domestic Violence hotline 1-800-799-7233 for more information.
As you grow in your relationship, you will learn to do some of the following each and every day:
When we are involved in a difficult conversation, we are often thinking about what we want to say next. Listening requires you to be fully present and open to what the other person is saying. It also requires some degree of concentration. Becoming a better listener can improve your relationship with your partner.
Here are three keys to help you become a better listener:
Ask for clarification to get more information when you do not understand. This will encourage the other person to share their position. It also shows that you are interested in what they have to say. Try using any of the following in your next conversation:
Some people get defensive when asked questions, so be gentle and supportive. Be careful with "why" questions. Instead of asking, "Why do you say it like that?" try instead, "Have I done something to make you angry?"
Tell the person what you understand to be the issue in your own words. This is not the same as parroting. This helps to correct any misunderstandings. Here are some examples:
Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Ask yourself: "If I were in this same position, how would I feel?" This can give you some much-needed insight.
Many of us think that good sex should just come naturally – we should instinctively know how to be good lovers without instruction or practice. Though we do have a primary biological drive for sex and procreation, satisfying lovemaking is more often something we must learn over time.
A healthy sexual relationship can:
Lovemaking is about sharing emotional closeness through physical interaction. Healthy sex is:
Good sex does not always have to mean intercourse, orgasm, ejaculation, or even sexual arousal. It can be satisfying just to hold your partner and concentrate on the physical and emotional closeness that you feel.
Good sex depends upon good communication. Don't assume that your partner knows intuitively what will sexually satisfy you without your saying what that is. Take the time to ask:
You can keep the romantic spark alive if you make good sex a priority and add some romance and surprise. You have to deliberately break the routine. Here are some ideas for how:
All people in relationships can have unresolved problems, but how they handle them is more important than the disagreement itself. By developing the ability to understand and respect one another's position, you build greater trust in your relationship. This can happen by carefully listening to each other and talking about the topic, even if you don't resolve your disagreement.
Think before bringing it up. Decide what your real issue is and how you would like to see it resolved free from emotion. For example, your partner came home late and did not call to let you know. Be clear about your expectations. Ask yourself what you hope the outcome of your discussion will be.
Set a time to talk when you are both open to discussion. "Can we talk about you coming home late last night? How about after the kids go to bed?"
State the problem as clearly as you can. "You came home really late last night."
Explain how the problem makes you feel. "I was afraid you had been in an accident or something. Then I got mad at the same time. I was angry about not knowing when you would get home."
Suggest a change. "Here is what I would like in the future, OK? When you know you'll be home after 6:15, give me a call and let me know. Even if all you can say is 'I'll be late,' that's better than not knowing."
Talk about positive outcomes. "If you call, I can stop worrying. You won't come home to me being so angry."
Reach resolution and clarify your agreement. "So, this is what we're agreeing to. You'll make a giant effort to call by 6:15 if you're going to be later than that. I will stop worrying and greeting you with my anger."
If you have an emergency medical condition, call 911 or go to the nearest hospital. An emergency medical condition is any of the following: (1) a medical condition that manifests itself by acute symptoms of sufficient severity (including severe pain) such that you could reasonably expect the absence of immediate medical attention to result in serious jeopardy to your health or body functions or organs; (2) active labor when there isn't enough time for safe transfer to a Plan hospital (or designated hospital) before delivery, or if transfer poses a threat to your (or your unborn child's) health and safety, or (3) a mental disorder that manifests itself by acute symptoms of sufficient severity such that either you are an immediate danger to yourself or others, or you are not immediately able to provide for, or use, food, shelter, or clothing, due to the mental disorder.
This information is not intended to diagnose health problems or to take the place of specific medical advice or care you receive from your physician or other health care professional. If you have persistent health problems, or if you have additional questions, please consult with your doctor. If you have questions or need more information about your medication, please speak to your pharmacist. Kaiser Permanente does not endorse the medications or products mentioned. Any trade names listed are for easy identification only.